You live in the western world, in a highly privileged country of Central Europe. Economy is doing great, transportation is excellent, it is safe, it is pretty. You are a white, highly educated woman. You are employed. You have great carreer prospects, possibly a bright future ahead of you. But.


Do you have a long-term relationship or are you one of these polygamic monsters? Or even worse, are you homosexual? Are you older than thirty and still unmarried? Oh poor thing, your boyfriend just won’t propose, will he? If you’ve been married for some time, why don’t you have children yet? If you have one child, why don’t you have another – don’t you know only children are lonely and miserable? Do you cook and prepare snacks for your familly? Don’t you know their health depends on you? Oh my God, you look so tired today, why aren’t you wearing make-up? When was the last time you got a manicure, you should not neglect your looks like that. Why do you care so much for your carreer, a woman’s destination is to have kids. Have you put on weight?


If you are ambitious and hard-working, you are a bossy cold-hearted bitch. Women should be tender and sweet and understanding. You should always give up your wishes and dreams, you should not complain, you should not exagerate. Honey, that’s just not what good girls do. Yes, your male colleagues are much better paid than you for the same job. You should be thankful you even have a job, you should be thankful you can vote. So what if your boss made a sexistic comment on your clothes, what if one of your co-workers just won’t stop harassing you until you go out with him. A woman’s no can be a no, it is a maybe. Come on now, you know you want it, you wouldn’t wear these slutty clothes if you didn’t. You had it coming. Why are you screaming like that, are you a hysterical feminist? When was the last time you had sex, that should calm you down, that should shut you up! Shut up, shut up!


How many of these lines have you heard yourself? How many of these things have you told other women, or have you thougth of? Take a moment to think today, take a moment to censor yourself and your words before you attack a woman next time. Take a moment to talk to the men and women in your life about sexism, discrimination, inequality, solidarity. Read and think and read again. Protect yourself, protect other women. Help and support and stand by each other. And let’s have some cake now, not to leave you with a bitter taste in your mouth.


Women’s Kumquat & Lemon Cake

makes 1 small cake (20 cm diameter)

  • 80 grams butter (room temperature) & extra for the cake pan
  • 1 cup sugar (infused with vanilla if possible)
  • 2 eggs
  • 3/4 cup milk
  • zest from 1 and 1/2 lemons
  • 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice
  • 1 tablespoon baking powder
  • 1 + 1/2 cups cake flour
  • glazed kumquats and glazed lemon peels (see recipe below)
  • some powder sugar to dust the buttered pan

1. Start by canding the kumquats and the lemons following the recipe below, cause you will need them to be cool before you put them in the cake. Butter your cake pan and dust it with some powder sugar. This will slightly caramelise the cake from the outside giving it a nice shiny golden colour.

2. Preheat the oven at 180°C (356°F). Beat the butter and the sugar until pale and fluffy. Add eggs, milk, zest, lemon juice, and mix until well combined. Add baking powder and cake flour and mix until just incorporated.

3.  Pour in the cake pan 1/3 of the batter, then arrange half of the glazed kumquats and the lemon peels. Pour in gently most of the remaining cake batter, then arrange the remaining glazed fruit. Cover with the last part of the batter, making sure that all fruit pieces are covered with batter, so that they don’t burn during baking.

4. Bake at 180°C (356°F) for 35-40 minutes, until golden or until a toothpick comes out clean. Let cool in the pan for 5 mins, then take it out and let cool. When in room temperature, decorate with the remaining glazed fruit and serve with a good cup of earl grey tea. Aren’t we fancy dear? 😉


Glazed Kumquats & Lemons

  • 1 cup water
  • 1/4 cup sugar
  • 8-10 kumquats, sliced thinly
  • 1+1/2 lemons sliced thinly

1. Make sure that the fruit you are using is not treated and that it is organic/bio.Wash and slice the citrus.

2. In a skillet add the water and the sugar. Heat in medium high while stirring constantly, until the sugar dissolves. Let the syrup cook for around 10 minutes. Reduce heat to medium low.

3. Start with the kumquat that will cook faster. Using a spoon, place the slices in the syrop and simmer for 3-4 mins until slighlty tender and candied. Remove with a slotted spoon. In the same syrop, add the lemon slices and repeat for 5-7 mins, or until tender and candied. Remove the fruit with a slotted spoon and set aside to cool, so that you can use it in the cake. You can save any syrop that is left in a pan and use it in other recipes or simply pour it over your cake slices!

4. It is better to just use the candied lemon peels in the cake, to avoid bitterness. Remove and discard the flesh and the pith of the lemon slices that you will use in the cake, letting whole the slices you will use for decorating. You shall use the kumquat slices whole, no need to remove the flesh or the pith.